One Thing Led To Another…
You may remember I had my first phone date with a pair of potential, intended parents last weekend. Let’s rewind to that day.
It was 11am on a Sunday, I was outside playing with the kids, trying to keep them happy so that, just maybe, they would behave themselves when it was time to take the call. (I know, I know. Wishful thinking. What is with kids needing your attention the SECOND you get on the phone, anyways?!)
When the phone rang, I had this huge knot in my stomach. What if it’s so awkward that we fill the silence by talking about something boring like the weather, or politics? Do I have a nice sounding voice? What if they ask me all kinds of crazy questions about my sex life, and the type of deodorant I wear?
But, within 10 seconds of answering the phone, I realized there was nothing to be nervous about. It was like we were long lost friends! We chatted about our families, our careers, our hobbies, and plans for the summer. We casually discussed each of our intentions with this journey, and expressed what we were hoping to find. We talked about all sorts of “hard” things like selective reduction, genetic testing, loss, etc. And, really, it wasn’t hard at all. It was easy because we were on the exact same page.
Time flew by, and before we knew it, an hour had passed. My kids were (obviously) starving, because we all know they will literally keel over and die of starvation if they’re not fed at hourly intervals. Their feet were covered in mud, and they had captured a garden snake. Clearly, it was time to end this conversation, and tend to the mayhem that was ensuing on my end. So we agreed to talk again soon, and left it at that.
So, there I was, for the rest of the day, with this silly grin on my face like I had just developed a new crush! These people were lovely, genuine, charismatic and so much more. They had far surpassed any pre-conceived notion of what I imagined them to be. We shared an immediate connection, and a level of comfort that I never expected to find. So, I decided to go out on a limb, and invite them to town for breakfast.
Let me clarify, I had never intended for all of this to progress so quickly. When I submitted my application, I imagined myself meeting a handful of couples, or individuals, and weeding my way through the mass amounts of inquires I received. But, something just felt right, and I can’t deny my intuition.
Four days later, I was driving to a quaint little restaurant in Waterloo, to meet E&M. My expectations were high, at this point. I wasn’t nervous, but overcome with excitement.
As soon as I walked in, I saw them sitting on a sofa in the back lounge area. Huge smiles, and welcoming eyes made me feel right at ease. We exchanged big, heartfelt hugs and sat down to what turned out to be a three and a half hour breakfast date. We talked for hours, about everything and anything you can think of. We laughed, we teared up at times, and there was a buzz of energy emitting from the hope and excitement that hovered around all of us. We discussed what our surrogacy journey might look like, with E&M attending prenatal appointments, and me travelling to Toronto for baby showers and celebrations. E&M shared that they plan to be completely open and honest with their child (or children!) about their conception, and who I am. We both agreed that a long term relationship would be wonderful. I felt right at home.
I was pretty sure, right then and there, that my search had ended. I wanted to complete this family, and give them everything they’ve dreamed of. I wanted to carry their baby.
But, it was so soon. My conscious kept telling me not to rush into anything, and to take some time to think it over before making any hasty decisions. So I did. I lasted one whole day, before sending them this
Within moments of hitting the “send” button, E&M were calling. My ears were filled with squeals of excitement, and I could sense the tears of joy that were running freely. My heart was filled with love. I am so humbled.
There we have it. I am officially “matched” with this wonderful couple, and could not be more honoured. E&M are clearly generous, loving, compassionate people who will love and cherish a child of their own. I can’t wait to give them the honour of becoming Parents. They deserve it more than anyone I can think of.
**To learn more about Surrogacy in Canada, please visit www.surrogacy.ca My experience with SCO has been nothing shy of wonderful! Let’s spread the word, and make more dreams come true!**