When I decided to begin my career as a doula, I had a pretty good idea of all the joy, fulfilment and satisfaction it would bring to my life. Empowering mothers to make informed decisions surrounding their birth, and their baby was something I was already quite passionate about. Just the very thought of supporting a mama through her labour and birth, while she brought a new life into this world was enough to get me hooked. Then there was the thought of whispering encouraging words to a mama who was offering her baby the gift of her milk for the very first time – what an honour to be a part of that! Life as a doula held so much promise and excitement, and I knew it would be life-changing for me.
It turns out there were so many things about this career that I didn’t know. Sure, the amount of work I have had to put in behind the scenes, building my website, networking with other birth professionals and developing a community presence were all a bit of a shock for me. But, that’s not what I am going to talk about today. The most surprising aspect of this career has turned out to be the wonderful, nurturing & supportive community of sisters I have become a part of. Doulas, clients and friends I have made along my journey are women like I have never met before.
Sadly, I can say that 3 years ago, I was not aware that communities like this existed. Communities where women routinely participate in selfless acts of kindness and generosity, in order to support one another. Communities where regardless of race, education, social status or religion, women are accepted for who they are, and welcomed with open hearts and really big hugs (If you aren’t yet aware, doulas like to hug. Anyone and everyone!). In this community I have been loved unconditionally, and given the priceless gifts of friendship, understanding, support and sisterhood. I have felt the gentle and compassionate hands of my sisters, lifting me up when I couldn’t walk, and guiding me to the light when I was lost in darkness. I have found my people; my village.
Not all of these village members are doulas; these friends and sisters of mine all come from different walks of life, and have crossed my path in many different areas. But, I believe the world of birth work, and the person I have become spiritually and emotionally through this wonderful career has empowered me to attract some really amazing people into my life. I’ve discovered that when you are happy, confident and content in your life’s journey, you exude positive energy, and so many good things are drawn to positive energy! Health, wellness, healing…and good friends.
When I began this journey, I knew it would be amazing. But, nothing could have prepared me for this. Birth work has proven to be, without a doubt, a life-changing experience. Surrounded by love, acceptance, trust and companionship, this has to be the best place in the world. For all of you, I am forever thankful.